Kevin and I have been anxiously waiting for about the last 2 1/2 weeks for the birthfather of our baby to be located and waive his rights. Of course, he didn't have to...that was the big worry. We had a series of hoops and hurdles to consider as responses to each possible outcome. What if he refuses to sign? What if they can't find him? Court? Fathers' Registry? So, those of you who know how much I worry and how little Kevin worries...trust me...we've both worried! People are always so impressed by how calm we seem about the whole thing. I try to keep a positive front and faithfully trust in God's will, but usually, I am shaking inside!
Well, today, the birthfather signed away his rights. It's hard for me to hold back the tears as I type this entry. This was an amazing relief to us. He said he wanted to do whatever our birthmother needed for him to do. The man who served him with the papers was very complimentary of his personality. He said he was very nice, calm, welcoming...friendly. It was a relief for me to hear that he didn't say anything negative or attacking of our birthmother. I already know how calm and peaceful or birthmother is...I'm glad to hear that the father was understanding.
Our birthmother to her caseworker that she is still resolved to go through with the adoption. She said that she feels a close bond with me especially. Our agency was also very complimentary of how protective and considerate we are of our birthmother. This was nice to hear.
Jack's father has two little boys and his mother has one little boy. I wonder if they'll ever meet. You know, I don't even know how I feel about it. I think about it, but I don't worry about it. I trust it will all work out fine. We'll teach him he's adopted and answer his questions as best we can, one question at a time. I can tell you one thing for sure...this little boy is going to win the lottery to have Kevin for a father. I can't wait to see the two of them hanging out together.
We are down to 48 days or less until the birth....
Tuesday, February 21, 2006
Thursday, February 16, 2006
Weekend in Tupelo
Kevin and I went to Tupelo to visit his mother last weekend. We took Biscuit with us. Birdie, who gets car sick, stayed with some friends. As usual, we had a great time.
When we arrived arrived lunchtime Friday, we had lunch at one of my favorite little places there...The Two-Tone...It's owned by a black lady and a white lady who are partners. A quaint little place with yummy pasta, sandwich, and seafood dishes just down the street from where Elvis first performed at the Fair and where he bought his first guitar. The city is revitalizing the downtown area, and it's way cool. Jen, you'd love the Gumtree Festival in May and all the thrift shops.
Friday night, we went to the big social event of the year, the Mardi Gras Charity Ball. Everyone wore formals. It was kind of fun to do that. I haven't bought a formal since high school. We enjoyed good food, great drinks, fun music and laughing at the drunk socialites. Joyce is always so excited when we come to town that she tells everyone. They all made a special point to come by our table and greet us. You'd think we were royalty. They have this thing call "Living Ads" for the Junior League. Businesses buy pretty young teenage girls to advertise for them for the upcoming year. They all dress up and are presented to the community.
I was really hoping for some snow, since Tupelo is in North Mississippi. They were forecasted to get a couple of inches. What they really got was a couple of flakes. It snowed for about 5 minutes in the middle of the day while the sun was shining...no accumulation of course. Kevin's nephew, Sean the college senior, called to tell us that they got about six inches. They were only an hour to the north of us. I'm so SAD!!!
Sunday, February 12, 2006
57 Days and Counting...
Our beautiful birthmother is due to deliver our son in 57 days. Kevin reminded me today that 57 days is the same amount of time it's been since our anniversary in December. It seems like that was only yesterday. Hopefully, our 57 days until Jack's birthday will go by quickly.
The nursery is ready. We added the rocking chair last week. Jen, you'll be proud...found it at an antique flea market in downtown P'ville for $40.00! What a bargain! I wasn't necessarily looking for an old one, just won that was "calling out to me" and matched the other furniture. Kevin and I found it while looking around before lunch at the Pasta Mill the other day.
We have found a place to stay for the two weeks or so after the birth with our little Jack while we're waiting for the Interstate Compact to be satisfied. The adoption will be irrevocable after 48 hours, but we'll have to wait for the ICPC to be complete before we can leave Texas with our son.
The nursery is ready. We added the rocking chair last week. Jen, you'll be proud...found it at an antique flea market in downtown P'ville for $40.00! What a bargain! I wasn't necessarily looking for an old one, just won that was "calling out to me" and matched the other furniture. Kevin and I found it while looking around before lunch at the Pasta Mill the other day.
We have found a place to stay for the two weeks or so after the birth with our little Jack while we're waiting for the Interstate Compact to be satisfied. The adoption will be irrevocable after 48 hours, but we'll have to wait for the ICPC to be complete before we can leave Texas with our son.
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