Wednesday, December 21, 2005

Elizabeth

Elizabeth is our birthmother. She is a young hispanic girl who is giving us the most wonderful gift...a child to love and nurture. She is already mother to 15-month-old Jayden. She loves Jayden so much that she knows she will not be able to provide for him, or any other child for that matter, without an education and profession. Her dream has always been to be a nurse and being the 2nd oldest of four children she never wanted more than one child. Her father raised all four of his children alone, so she knows how demanding that can be. She has been accepted into an intensive 2-year RN program which will begin in June and knows that Kevin and I have the love and resources to take care of her unborn son and raise him as our own. We will be with him from the moment of birth. What a wonderful miracle!

We visited Elizabeth's hometown in TX last weekend and met her face-to-face for the first time. She is a wonderful, gentle, caring mother to the son she already has and seems to be satisfied with that role. She is about my height, round-faced, with long straight dark brown hair. She has really nice full lips and the biggest, most beautiful brown eyes I have ever seen. She seems to be quiet and soft-spoken, but not overly shy. Kevin and I really enjoyed meeting her. We are as comfortable with her as can be under the circumstances. We ate lunch with her twice and dinner once. She was our tourguide on a tour around Corpus Christi. She and I seem to have the same taste in food; we both love Italian food and cheese. She is a smart girl who also loves to read. She played basketball in high school and still loves the sport. Although she has one older sister, she has a younger brother and sister with the same age differences from her as mine. So, we also have that in common.

We enjoyed seeing her interact with Jayden. They share such a deep bond. It is obvious that everything she does is for him. Jayden is full of personality! He is such a sweety. I love the way he holds things between his index finger and thumb, very particular. We played chase. He likes to peek out from around the corner. Elizabeth's family is very involved with helping her take care of Jayden. His complexion is somewhat lighter that Elizabeth's, but of course he is younger. He is a handsome little boy, sparkling eyes, big smile, full of expression. He is very patient. He didn't cry any of the time we were around him. I noticed him watching Kevin a lot.

It's really neat to have a face to put with the idea of our son. I think that couples who give birth to their child picture a son like the father or a daughter like the mother. Kevin and I picture Jayden. I like that.

I think our meeting with Elizabeth went well in her eyes too. She has called us twice since we left Sunday. I think of her often. She and Jayden will always have a special place in our hearts. In a way, they are part of a greater family. Jack will complete it.

3 comments:

A Friend said...

She sounds great! Good to hear the trip went well. Call or email me next week.

A Friend said...

I emailed you. I don't know if it's the right email. Let me know.

Liz said...

I am so glad to hear things went so well. She does sound like a wonderful person. I think it's awesome that you guys were able to meet her son Jayden and now, have an image of what your son will look like.

I have a question. Please let me know if I'm being too nosey. You said in a previous post that you would let Jack know all about his birthmother. I think that is great! So, I take it he will also know he has a bother? Do you plan for them to be close? Of course I mean as close as the can be living in different states.

I think it is a wonderful thing that you and Kevin are doing. I will certainly seek your advise should me becoming a mother take the same path.